Authentic writing, telling the truth (as you see it) and being brave are a few of the requirements of being a writer. Aside from showing up to the page regularly (daily?), the writer strives to connect with something deep within and then to impart what she or he discovers.
When my parents were in the last few years of their lives, emails flitted back and forth between me and some of my eight siblings. Having eight siblings means that there are nine different perspectives on how to handle any given situation. Within such a web of words and voices cramming the ethers, how do you retain and impart your own truth and integrity? Especially when the topic is one with emotional impact?
I’ve found that doing something that centers me–a walk in nature, yoga, calisthenics, cooking, Tai Chi, whatever–helps to bring balance. And then I write what feels true in the moment. And then, I write it again and again until the truth is distilled to something that I truly believe is worth sharing. I’ve learned not to expect to be understood by everyone. Ears hear what they hear. However, as a human, I have a multitude of opportunities to practice expressing myself on and off the page. Life does seem to present these opportunities for me, for you, for everyone to practice using our voices.
“And the speaking will get easier and easier.
And you will find you have fallen in love
with your own vision, which you may never have
realized you had. And you will lose some friends
and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them.
And new ones will find you and cherish you…
And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty
that only one thing is more frightening
than speaking your truth.
And that is not.”
Remember a time when you spoke what felt true for you.
How did it feel in your body to speak the truth?
Did you lose friends or lovers? Write about it.
Conversely, remember a time when you didn’t speak what felt true for you.
How did it feel in your body not to speak the truth?
Did you lose friends or lovers or disappoint yourself? Write about it.
Do something fun today.