In an earlier blog, Julia Cameron explained Artist Dates. According to Julia, once-a-week or once-a-month, you take yourself out on a date–a fun and inspiring solo date. In this post, I’m talking about daily romancing. Refreshing your writing space from time to time, breathes fresh air into your creativity. Buying fresh flowers for that empty vase and setting them where you can rest your eyes on them between writing bursts is uplifting. A pretty desk pad, a curtain that is light and airy on the window or wall above your desk. Or an abstract dreamy painting to gaze off and into. A new scented candle.
Romancing yourself is a way of inviting self-love into what you do. Typically, we write on the side or paint on the side or do crafts on the side. We don’t consider that it is a worthy occupation because we’re doing it on the side and perhaps we haven’t made any money at it (well, not yet; maybe one day?).
Regardless, romance yourself.
Another writer once suggested dressing up as if you were, perhaps, going out on an actual date…one to impress…makeup or tie, perfume or after-shave, jewelry? or whatever you do that’s extra special to be your boldest, most beautiful or handsome. Then go to your writing space and “write!” I think this was a way that he or she addressed writer’s block. He/she swore that it worked!
Honestly, I don’t do this enough for myself. I have writing clutter which I occasionally, in a burst of Virgo energy, put in order. It doesn’t stay in order for very long. However, it feels good in the moment like right after you’ve first washed the kitchen floor. Yay, good job! Hey, who walked through here with dirt on their shoes? Suspicious eyes.
Seriously, I’m thinking about leaving a dark chocolate truffle on my writing desk once I’ve cleared it and placed a vase of fresh flowers.
What can you do today to refresh and reinvigorate your writing life? What sort of romancing works for you? You are definitely the hero or heroine of your life and deserve to be fully loved and appreciated, wildly romanced (especially by yourself!) as you pursue your craft. In your journal, describe what romancing the writer in you would look like.