“The Girl I was once knew it all
the rising tides and nation’s fall
how to achieve peace on earth
the value of a woman’s worth…” And then I forgot.
Afraid to Lose You
Long lonely nights waiting for you to come home
from a night out.
Listening for the sound of your truck
in the driveway.
Worrying that you drank too much–again.
Praying you would make it home
Unable to express my anger
if I curse you,
tell you how your behavior
is hurting our family,
I might lose you.
I was under a spell cast by the society I grew up in. It said that a woman’s highest role was to be a good wife–satisfy her mate, care for his needs, make him happy, help him to achieve his goals in life. I would find my fulfillment in that. Structured within this belief system was the notion that my own self-actualization was not a valid desire.
Have you ever had a sense of being under a spell?
If so, what helps you to awaken?
Write for ten minutes without censoring yourself.
This way of writing has been termed “free-writing”.
Following is my paraphrase of an old myth involving King Arthur, Sir Gawain & Dame Ragnelle:
King Arthur is given a life-threatening challenge by the mystical knight, Sir Gromer Somer Joure–“FIND OUT WHAT WOMEN MOST DESIRE AND RETURN HERE IN ONE YEAR WITH THE ANSWER” OR ELSE! King Arthur enlists the help of his nephew and trusted knight, Sir Gawain. Separately, they roam the countryside seeking the true answer. As the year is nearly up, they compare their notes and realize that they are no closer to an answer. The despairing King rides off into the forest seeking inspiration of some sort. This is precisely when the unattractive old crone, the Dame Ragnelle, appears to the King and offers him a solution. In exchange for the true answer, she asks for the hand of Sir Gawain in marriage. Sir Gawain accepts the proposal to save his uncle’s life. As it turns out, the Dame Ragnelle has been under a spell herself. When Sir Gawain respectfully and tenderly takes her to the marriage bed, she transforms into her true and beautiful self. Another enchantment broken by the power of love. With all of this, can you guess what answer Dame Ragnelle gave to the King?
What would your answer to this question be? Free-write for ten minutes.
(Dame Ragnelle’s answer
is forthcoming in the next blog.)
For now, here are a few WRITING TIPS for you.
To begin this journey, you will need a journal or writing pad, a comfortable-to-grip pen,
clothing that does not bind, a good chair and sufficient lighting. Decide what else you need to create your space for writing. Could it be a favorite lamp, a flower in a vase, a candle, a centering stone, a feather, a seashell or a card from an inspirational deck? It would be helpful if you had a timer for timed writings.